Us Cuddle girls have a history of what we call “crazy boobs,” we are lumpy and really never know what’s going on in there (this is due to having large, dense breasts-you’re welcome boys). With that said, I never thought me or someone I know would be called the “c” word by a doctor. I mean, in most cultures that’s just rude.
Cancer, the new “c” word, is one of those things that you never really think will affect you or your family. Even when it does it seems as though it’s not real. To be honest, in my mind, cancer was in a file that included all the really unlucky people in the world and grandparents who were about to die anyway. Mama Cuddle told us she was looking a little lumpy back in July and honestly, I thought, “hmm,crazy boobs after it again.” About a week later, my flippant attitude towards lumps drastically changed when she was diagnosed with breast cancer.
My sister and I were both in Houston and my dad was out-of-town that day. As 1st responders we did what any daughters would do, surround her with a few of her favorite things: flowers, cherry sours and fritos and bean dip(a deep love that was passed on to yours truly). As our hearts became heavy with a multitude of questions and fears we hugged and Mama Cuddle said, “Crazy boobs can’t stop us.” And boy was she right.
2 months into the diagnosis, different treatments, surgery and tests as if her body was a pin cushion, mama cuddle continues to be the strongest role model anyone (really, not just her kids), could ask for. It’s funny because people who know her continue to say things like, “Yea, this is hard but your mom’s a badass.” or “Helen is one strong lady! She started a company, runs a family and still has time to enjoy all aspects of the world-cancer is just another thing on the to do list.” And they are right, let’s cross this one off the To Do list, eh?
The Susan G. Komen website(is AWESOME) and lists some things you are supposed to do when diagnosed or a loved one is diagnosed:
Coping with breast cancer requires time, acceptance, a fighting spirit and support.
Talk honestly with each other. This will help you gain trust and confidence.
Do not be afraid to ask for help.
Just as your children depend on you, you can depend on them too. They can be, and probably want to be, a source of support for you. They will want to listen to you, hug you, kiss you and spend time with you. Let them. **Even if they are 1,967 miles away**
Well Mama Cuddle, looks like you have done it again, because just like you have my whole life, without reading any manuals, you are doing it all right. They did leave out one important point though:
- NO PITY PARTIES! *Seriously*
This has been a roller coaster ride, there are still a TON of unanswered questions, treatments that are yet to be determined and more wait time than any member of the impatient Cuddle crew can handle. But, if I am sure of any thing, I am sure of this: We are in this together.
SO cheers to Breast Cancer awareness month and bad ass lady. Go get your tatas screened ladies, because being a “C” word, is no good, no matter what the meaning!